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Sunday, September 30, 2007

Community Project: MLK Day at NCSSM

Purpose/Principles/Values
I feel strongly that MLK day is underused and shows a lack of appreciation for the importance of education about the current state of diversity issues... I believe a powerful MLK day at NCSSM that can be used as a model for other high schools is something I can help make happen that would be movement building.

Vision/Success/Mission
Develop NCSSM's 2008 MLK day to be not just history, but creation of dialogue about the intersections of race, class, gender, sexual orientation, and other ISMs founded on race-aware staff and student feedback and priciples of dismantling oppression.

Brainstorm
Much of this has already been done for the basics... see the history section.  Still need to brainstorm with a group at NCSSM.

Organize
Not there yet!  Gotta do more meetings...

Next Actions
W/F hearing back re: meetings from Letita and Dr. Barber

History:
When I started my previous job as Student Life Instructor and Service Learning Coordinator at the North Carolina School of Science and Math, I made an early call to Mandy Carter (who rocks) at Southerners on New Ground, asking how I could help as a volunteer for SONG. I feel lucky to have met Mandy in a number of contexts when I was an ally at Public Allies, North Carolina (class of '04! Shout outs to staff: Cal, Amoke, Dionysios and Dan), like when she was part of an inspiring panel on heterosexism with a number of other awesome folks. At any rate, as part of that conversation, I offered a number of random skills and asked questions about what SONG was doing. Turns out a pet project of Mandy's at the time was to get Brother Outsider: The Life of Bayard Rustin shown at high schools... heck, I lived and worked at a high school! The gist of the project was to incorporate the movie into MLK days at high schools in the south region. The reason? Bayard Rustin was many things, including an incredible quaker pacifist, the chief organizer of the march on Washington where Dr. MLK delivered the "I have a Dream" speach, a long-time civil rights activist and organizer, and an out, gay Black man. Because of that, while he was a key player in many, many civil rights struggles around labor and race, he frequently played a backstage role to other leaders. His sexual orientation was used as a tool to discredit the movement... his story weaves sexual orientation and race together powerfully to give a deeper picture of civil rights besides just "race." By showing the movie at high schools, it begins to weave an awareness of the interrelatedness of civil rights issues. Showing it is super strategic! By playing my part to try to get it shown, I was excited to be part of an organized and strategic effort in the region. Mandy really gave me an opportunity to feel like part of a movement. In 2007, MLK day was put together for perhaps the first time with choices - movies like The Color of Fear and Brother Outsider were shown as part of the official programming of the day, as well as facillitated activities by student leadership. That year, I designed a survey to measure student feedback about the different events, divided by race and gender identification. It could use some clean up, but it was the first measurement of student interest in MLK day activities to date (for those interested, see the overall results and the spreadsheet breakdowns by program). What rocked was that we were giving choices to students, and that went over Very well (which we had the data to demonstrate, as well). In conversations with Letita (who, again, rocks and is inspiring to me), we both felt energy from the movie initiatives and the very positive shifts in MLK day presentation still has room to grow to be more inline with the non-stereotyped vision of Dr. King, including his stances on labor and militarism. So this coming year, I'm hoping to support the school from the community in developing MLK day even more - with choices for students that acknowledge and honor folks of various backgrounds...leaving no one feeling unmotivated or unactivated (whereas, before, white students, especially white men, felt unmotivated and unincluded in the "history lesson). NCSSM is a pretty strategic place for these kinds of changes, since it serves, in many ways, as a model school for both the region (since students come from all over the state to attend) and the nation (since it's one of the premiere public, residential high schools in the nation). Positive changes to the way dialogue is done around MLK day, changing it from one of passive hero-worship to active education, celebration, and movement building can easily make waves.

7/22/2007-I have a task to contact 5 folks to help organize early a diversity committee at NCSSM with superstar Letita Mason. I've been lazy though, and haven't done it this week because the next action of the project is intimidating to me somehow. I think it was knowing how to write a fancy, nice email... so I've changed the next action to "write 5 sentence email to 5 people to 'ping' the project. It doesn't always take perfection, just consistency. Hopefully that'll do it this week.

9/30/2007 - I've put some effort into this and organized a buncha ideas. Here's a recent email:


Letita! (Dr. Barber!)

Here's a thought on the ongoing discussions about providing award-winning, and student empowering MLK programming. I thought it would be cool to get movies and tie them with diverse speakers, too.
Since I just got back from Highlander (again, which has a STONG connection to past and current social change and civil rights), they mentioned this movie coming out describing every day social change activists and the history of civil rights in the south: http://www.milestonefilms.com/movie.php/ygtm/

Also, I personally know two Highlander co-directors who ran the youth organizing program I could ask to speak after the movie about being young and engaged. I think it would rock. :-)

Just food for thought! Some more brainstorms, given that choices went so well last time and we could build a day of activities (maybe 3/4 at a time, 2-3 groups of activities):

* Show Bayard Rustin and ask Mandy Carter (a friend of mine) to come speak about intersections of race and sexual orientation (http://www.classicdykes.com/mandy_carter.htm)

* Show Blue Eyed or Color of Fear and ask Tema Okun (and/or myself) to come speak about being white (http://www.cwsworkshop.org/resources/ARAgenda.html, http://www.pubpol.duke.edu/centers/hlp/about/faculty/okun-tema/index.htm
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* Show a movie on the use of Gospel/Black Spirituals to galvanize spiritual energy during civil rights, follow with Colours leading some "campfire" singing...?

* Have Durham CAN come to talk about local organizing (they're a group that organizes churches and groups to move for specific changes - they helped raise the minimum wage in Durham, for instance: http://www.durhamcan.org/

* Coordinate a number of afternoon service projects through United Way (since it's recognized as a Day of Service), and through Chasity, the new service learning coordinator.

* Have someone come (I have two contacts in mind) to talk about downtown Durham's history, Parrish street and Black Wall Street and how economies and local history impacted civil rights. Peter Coyle is in the public art department in downtown Durham and knows just about everything's that's happened in Durham with civil rights and buildings. There's also a new Parrish Street history museum that celebrates Parrish Street, and I know someone there too. (http://www.dukenews.duke.edu/2007/01/parrish.html, http://www.durhamnc.gov/departments/eed/parrish/)

I am energized about this and can help make these things happen, but I'd love to be in conversation with other folks about more ideas, too. I feel like we don't acknowledge multiple racial identities that well yet (chicano/latino, asian american, indian american, native american), the link between economics and civil rights, immigration, and some other issues that we could still delve into.

Anyway, since MLK day's on my mind ... well, a few times a week, and I've been collecting ideas (especially when I was at Highlander), I thought I'd pass them on! I wanna help make it the best, most motivating and student celebrated MLK day on record. And I really think I could help do that this year.

looking forward to it! MLK day's right around the corner, to me!
:-)

peace,mike


So hopefully we're going to meet within a week or two...

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Community Project: Shunryu Suzuki Roshi Video - goin' public?

7/22/07 - I emailed back and forth this week with David Chadwick, author of the biography of Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, a very well-known zen teacher (author of Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind and others), about a video I once saw at the Chapel Hill Zendo of Suzuki Roshi. Some of the video is posted online in a great interview with David that Brad Warner talked about. I'd LOVE to be able to see that video again (which has a hilarious exchange with Reb Anderson Roshi and Suzuki Roshi, as well). After going to a zen and breadmaking workshop with Ed Brown at 9th St Bakery a few months ago, I emailed him about it as well. I also emailed the presenter of the video, Taigen Dan Leighton, about two years ago. Basically, I haven't forgotten about it! :-) So the weekly check in here is that I asked David if I could help in any way getting the SFZC to release the video for we newer students who got into zen practice after Suzuki Roshi died. I offered to help video edit or design covers, whatever's in the way of it getting out. He suggested I keep pestering folks, and remembered my emails (and that of local Abbess Taitaku Pat Phelan, whom he said emailed about it as well) from two years ago to other folks. I'll keep following up every once in a while with someone new and the folks I've talked to already. So I created a 1 month from now suspended task in my electronic tickler (heh, sounds funny) to remind me to email my current list of contacts saying "hey, how cool would it be...". I can imagine many zen students wanting to have public access to this great video. I certainly do.

9/30/07
Purpose/Principles/Values
- I feel comfortable with the previous summary describing my values on this...

Vision/Success/Mission
Success looks like having a purchasable or (ideally) public video record of Shunryu Suzuki roshi. His contribution to US Zen seems too great to not offer up to be widely available.

Brainstorm
Well, I've contacted a number of teachers already about this. I already have a suspended reminder task to pop up and remind me to remind them again that I'd be willing to help.

Organize
It's organized, at this point - organic is ok on this, and what's capturable is captured.

Next Actions
Suspended email task to check in with a few folks.

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Community Project: Public Allies North Carolina Alumni Network

Cal Allen mentioned this week he wanted to start up an initiative to bring the wider alumni network back in to PANC. We've ideas (and I'm sure many other alumni do too)! He and I are going to get lunch this week to talk about it.


...which we did! I miss Cal - Cal, come over for breakfast! lol.

I'm going to see him again tomorrow for a consulting project. I'll make a "meeting note" dated tomorrow to remind me to check in about this.

Next week I hope to know more and project plan it specifically - right now, it's just to find out what Cal's got in mind and if I can do anything. I have faith in his values...

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Community Project: Rape of my Loved One

As I occasionally mention, I've had the sad and meaningful experience of supporting both friends and lovers through the ongoing healing of sexual assault. I find, lately, that *I* need support as well. On a drive this week, I realized how powerful it would be to have a book of testimonials of men and women (and other genders) who have supported others through healing ... what their emotions and experiences were. I would be willing to edit a website or book to put this together... so I've added it to my projects list and I've created a next action to research books or websites already written on the subject this week. In general, I want to look into resources for secondary survivors like myself (which help us both to support assault survivors AND support ourselves... since coping with the deep hurt of a loved one is difficult in and of itself, with its own special challenges and long-term impacts).

Update
10/30/07:
I'm going to be a bit more structured with this, so will GTD Project plan this now.

Also, I've been in contact with Orange County Rape Crisis Center support group coordinator Sage (who seems to rock) about a secondary survivors group and related resources. She's going to organize one this winter (if you need contact information for that, please let me know and I'll pass on information to her). Also (again), I passed her information on to the awesome dudes at MARC - Men Against Rape Culture - who I've always had great experiences with. Come winter, we should have some great stuff going on, and I'm looking forward to that supportive time.

Since the original post, I've looked around and not found much on supporting secondary survivors like myself. What I find, I'll post.

Purpose/Principles/Values
Almost every woman I've had a close relationship with has been assaulted in one form or another, and almost exclusively by men. I believe men are hurting deeply as a culture, and manifest it either by violence themselves or having to cope with the violence of others to their loved ones. I believe if men particularly, but secondary survivors in general, had more resources around how to support the loved ones in their lives who have been impacted by sexual assault, we'd end up with a different culture where women aren't the objects of regular assault (though it certainly happens in the LGBTQ community too). This is in keeping with some principles in a great article on sexual education for men: More than a few good men: strategies for inspiring boys and young men to be allies in anti-sexist education by Jackson Katz. (which I recently passed on to some folks at the OCRCC).

Vision/Success/Mission
Success would look like some collection of resources for secondary survivors in general and men in particular in supporting themselves and their loved ones. That might be a popular book of stories... or a website... some artifact that is of benefit to many.

Brainstorm
To get there, I've got to first find out what's been done... and to be honest I've found VERY little. But in supporting myself, I'll keep looking up stuff.
I've got some relevant connections and certainly experience already, but organic and community driven is often the best way. I'll hopefully get more involved in MARC and the secondary survivors group that comes together...

Organize
This is mostly organic as an idea at this point, so the organization is just to track opportunities as they come up.

Next Actions
Few - just to suspend a reminder task to check back in about the support group as the spring comes close, and to occasionally look for resources myself (a maybe/someday online browsing task should do).

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Community Project: Downtown Durham Public Art / Social Justice History


Purpose/Principles/Values
Wanting to support explicitly anti-racist material in downtown Durham; finding out about public projects so I'm more educated.

Vision/Success/Mission
A downtown Durham that integrates interesting progressive imagery and art into its landscape

Brainstorm
So I've met with some cool folks, (as previously blogged), but right now I'm waiting on a friend to send me my notes on people... do I really want to commit to this?

Organize
Not much to organize - just keep exploring I think.

Next Actions
W/F envelope of meeting notes so I can do some follow up.

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Community Project: Coordinate Select Public Allies Trainings

Purpose/Principles/Values
I value my PANC experience and want similar for the program; I think PANC should do an ethical and appropriate job with key trainings, and I want to support that process. Those key trainings are also helpful for promoting program/personal change. I value certain trainings: like the personal organization, dismantling racism, dismantling heterosexism, spirituality trainings. Got to include panels that represent diverse points of view and meaningful exercises!

Vision/Success/Mission
Success would look like allies having multiple strong connections with trainers and the work being done around the area. They'd KNOW the value of PANC in terms of introducing them to leaders in the area.

Brainstorm
Stream of consciousness - hmm. Let's see. ? we've got certain people I'd love to get involved. I think starters would be to create time to come into the office to check that binder out, maybe borrow it? next actions are to decide

Some previous notes:
* training - find ways to connect w/ local resources - mailing lists - get on 3-5 mailing lists for a month, report on them....
* go to a community meeting they're not the center of?UNC thing
* contact 1 previous partner organiztaion that does similar work. Network.
* Get a class archivist - interview someone from the class!
* Network PANC tools - weave them in
* ask allies - more often, less often for trainings
* the MPC list of language?. (test raped me, etc.)
* Create PANC email list!

Organize
- done - created folder, made next actions to do...

Next Actions
- decide on trainings, get commitment/decision to PM and Buddy at PANC @home
- ? then contact trainers, etc. (after that!)

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Community Project: A Queer Ear, NC

GTD Natural Planing:
Principles/Purpose/Values
to support lgbt communities & queer youth who can't find resources

Vision
a world where queer youth can find someone to talk to about sexuality quickly; more limitedly - a state where folks can find a point person or resources in their area for questions, support. Where you can see the state of NC on a map and all the queer friendly places and out people... and people know about it!

Brainstorming
hmm - ?what's already around? If I'm an lgbtq youth in NC in each county, how would I find resources?
Resources:- insideout page, phatlove...
- my relationship to spectrum - lol about 80 lgbtqa youth from all over NC seem to know me! Who would want to work with me?

Organizing
Still have lots of questions that need to be answered first before "doing" it -

@Next Actions
- email amy, insideout youth board about this project - can they house point people for each NC region?
- email spectrum point people for them to forward to SPECTRUM to enlist help - 8 people from different regions in NC to help brainstorm a project, meeting monthly, a little homework you can do over extendeds or from your house.
- then check back here again in a week!

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Wednesday, August 1, 2007

Downtown Durham Anti-Racist Art - a day of meeting folks!

So I previously reported on this (when I passed by these two banners), but here's a cool update.

I dropped an email to the mayor and councilors, and got bounced around to Peter Coyle. He was the right person to be bounced to! We met to talk about including more social justice friendly public art in downtown Durham.

Turns out he's "in charge" of coordinating the many, many Durham government departments who need a say in public art projects. He's done some cool work, and is a great storyteller and natural historian. He gave me some seemingly incredible contacts in the Mary Duke Biddle...etc. foundation who may be interested in projects or have great social justice stories about downtown Durham to tell. In the process of an incredible meeting with him, we passed by the new Parrish street site of the historical preservation society.

There I met three more folks interested in public art, traded contact info and learned about what they did!

Went home, and followed up with each one by email. I've set up a meeting with Rachel of the new Sanford Institute center overseeing social justice and history projects. Cool stuff - I've a connection to that project through being a SOL alum, so I'm looking forward to being a resource. I also passed on Dr. Iris Carlton-LaNey's contact info, because she rocks.

Some good practices from this:
  • using meeting one person to meet lots of folks interested in similar work
  • committing to follow-up within 24 hours (which nabbed me some follow-up meetings)
  • always having contact info (business cards or whatever) handy
  • passing on other resources who's influence I want to increase immediately


Looking forward to see where this goes!

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Sunday, July 22, 2007

Public Allies North Carolina Giving Circles

PA Giving Circle - PANC staff tried to start one of these under a grant a while back, but I don't know if it petered out (weird expression!) or what. Cal likes the idea of doing it again, I do too - another one for lunch this week.

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Community Project: Computer donation for SURGE - thanks Lauran!

Solicit donation for Jillian's computer for Surge - Since I used to run geek-a-thons at NCSSM, many folks still seek me out to give computers to. Most of them go to Kramden, but since Kramden's started to prefer bulk computer donations of similar models (for obvious refurb reasons), some I give to select nonprofits, etc. Jillian Johnson, rockin' radical mom, helps run a Durham chapter of SURGE. Lauran Whitworth, previous SLI and extraordinaire future art historian grad schooler, donated a nice computer I'm going to refurb and give to Surge. Tjavascript:void(0)his week I got the computer after an email back and forth with Lauran and emailed Jilly to invite her over to my place to pick it up... OR to have me clean it up and install some good free software. Hoping to get rid of it with appropriate peripherals this coming week.

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Weekly Review: spotlight on community projects

Sunday mornings I currently do my weekly review in the GTD system. That's when I get "squeekly clean" with my projects, next actions, and the like. Of course, as with the rest of my life, this is a work in progress - my weekly review is 95% the same week-to-week, but changes from time to time. While later this week I'll highlight exactly How I'm doing it, I'd like to get in the practice of doing a community project run-down. That is, as part of my review, I go through all my next actions to see if they're part of multi-part projects with outcomes I care about...and have committed to - not just "a good idea I'd do if I had an infinite amount of time. I also go the "other direction" - checking my projects to see if each one has a to-do associated with it to kick start it. I'm running down my community projects list currently, so I figured it'd be nice to run-down publicly as the first step to a weekly pattern of checking in on projects. So, here we go.

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